Well, it is official. The Dossier and Home Study are now at AGCI and going to be reviewed today! After my finger printing disappointment, I called my case manager at AGCI to let her know what happened. In her loving and very bubbly voice ( I love that about her :) she told me that she'd check with the Social Services Dept. to see if we could move forward and add the date of my print clearance when it comes back from the FBI.
I received an email 45 mintues later saying yes, go ahead and send the dossier! YEA! I was so relieved after two months of having that thing just sit in my work basket. If you have gone through the adoption paperwork before, you know how much time and effort goes into getting it all done quickly and correctly. And ours sat for 2 and a half months, finished. Not touched. Not mailed. Not reviewed. Until today!
So, we praise God for giving us the patience to wait. We thank Him for his master plan and for just letting us carry it out. We glorify Him in all of this, and are humbled he chose us to parent two more of His precious lambs.
To our little guys:
Mommy and Daddy are praying that God is keeping your bodies nourished and fed. We pray that you are getting hugs and kisses every day. We ask that God has revealed Himself to you and that you know how much your Savior loves you. We can't wait to meet you and hold you and care for you and love you!
This should be great news, right? This is what we have been waiting for for eight weeks- clearance from the FBI! Well, one envelope contained great news- Jon has no criminal record. Well, I knew that, but now everyone we know can rest easy too.
The not so great news? The other envelope contained a new blank print card and a note that my prints were rejected because of "code L0117- insufficient pattern area (s) recorded for identification purposes." Meaning, they weren't clear enough to process.
That sooooooooo stinks!
So, not only did we get a eight week late start in getting the prints taken and to the FBI, (due to a misunderstanding by our social worker) we then waited another eight weeks just for me to be rejected???? After a five minute pity party filled with tears (I was by myself, thank goodness), I pulled myself together, had a talk with God and I was assured, "this rejection has a purpose". Hmmm. "Any chance you'll let me in on the reason for that?", I said. I have a feeling when I see the picture of our boys for the first time, that question will be answered.
I am seeing many truths confirmed through this adoption:
* most glaringly: EXPECT the UNEXPECTED!
* our plan is not God's plan
* God's plan is better for us
* it doesn't do any good to feel sorry for myself- just makes me feel worse
* I am so thankful for my husband
* I see how compassionate and loving my kids are
* that I have great family and friends who are praying for us
* overcoming trials with perseverance makes us stronger
* God will never leave us or forsake us
* Each roadblock put in our way has a purpose which will lead us to the two precious boys God has planned to be part of our family
So, am I disappointed with yet another delay? Absolutely.
Will I get over it? Yep.
Am I confident in God's promise from Romans 8:28 ? 'And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.'
Jon and I received our completed home study for review yesterday! Last night we went over the twelve page report and made any necessary corrections and revisions and I emailed it back this morning. Once that has been sent to All God's Children, we were told we could send in our dossier to AGCI for review to make sure it is all correct. Then we just have to wait to get our FBI clearance back and we can be put on a wait list for our boys! Please pray that the FBI is ahead of the 13 week schedule we were originally told, so far we are at 7 weeks!
Maddie joined our family a year ago today. She was adopted from the Humane Society when she was 3 years old. To be honest, she wasn't the cutest dog when we got her. She had recently had puppies and so had lost lots of her hair, and looked like she hadn't had a bath in months. After "fostering" her for a weekend, daddy said OK to keeping her and she was ours!
For the first five months, Maddie was not the ideal pet. She pooped on the floor all the time, peed all over the family room rug and bit two kids, who happened to be our neighbors and good friends. We were also not the ideal owners. We hadn't done a lot of reading on adopting or training a dog and didn't have her kenneled when we left the house, so she had free reign.
After biting the second neighbor, Jon and my dad were adamant that she go back to the Humane Society, but I just couldn't do it. I felt like I had failed her. All I could think of was "if I can't take care of a dog and deal with her imperfections and somehow work with her to handle them, how can I even think about adopting two little boys who will come home not trusting us, be scared out of their minds, have no idea what we are saying to them, and be their mother?"
So, the next morning, I spoke to several dog trainers, went to the library and read a couple books, listened to Cesar on CD and started training her myself. I began to really pay attention to her needs and learn her habits, and to be consistent, loving and firm with her. Within a few months, she stopped growling at little kids, making messes on the floor and started to let us know when she had to go outside. She needed time to get to know us, be comfortable in our home, and trust us. Her barking still drives us nuts, but when she barks, she thinks she is protecting us, which is sweet. Terribly annoying, but sweet.
I can see now that God used our dog to give us just a small taste of what life will be like when we bring home two new children. I know that I cannot compare caring for a dog to caring for two children, but there are some similarities. We won't know their pasts or what they have endured in their short lives. They will not trust us, understand us or be comfortable in our home for a while. They will need time to attach and bond to us and us to them, just like Maddie did. Praise God for using this bundle of cute black fur to teach us a lesson.
If you noticed in the last post, Ava has a new do! She had been contemplating getting her hair cut for quite a while. I was ready long before her, but didn't want to pressure her if she wasn't ready. On Saturday, we went to Snips and Giggles - a kids salon and she donated 10 inches to Locks of Love. It was a fun experience, especially since she has only gotten her haircut in a salon once or twice before - Aunt Cindy usually cuts our hair (thank you!) Thanks to some friends- Destiny, Kalayna and Marissa for inspiring Ava to go for it!
Praising God for the ultimate gift- His Son and loving that we got to celebrate his resurrection with our wonderful family- love you all! I did manage to get a few pictures yesterday........ For those of you wondering if I got the MASSIVE grass stain out of Payton's pants- yes I did, after 3 washings and lots of SHOUT!
Thank you to all who asked about our adoption, it means so much to have your support and prayers!
I am a 40 year old wife to an amazingly wonderful husband, mom to 4 beautiful and spirited children, 3 from the belly, one from the heart, a princess of God, and I am striving to live my life for Christ, the way the Lord intended. My life has changed drastically since I began to follow the passage "Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart" Psalm 37:4.